My answer to How do you deal with failure?
Answer by Enna Morgan:
I alter my perspective.
‘Failure’ is not real, it is merely a concept. It has the effect of making us despondent only because society has assigned it a negative value, and has programmed us to believe that value. But failure really is a helpful, kind, trusty friend.
This is what failure means to me, in a nutshell
- Failure weeds out of all the things that were not suited to me. It distills the process and path to my objective.
- Failure teaches me to look for alternatives.
- Failure pushes me harder, so that I grow.
- Failure urges me to believe in myself and persevere.
- Failure teaches me confidence, because after the first 40 (or more) unsuccessful attempts, my skills become honed so that I know exactly how to nail the target, confidently
- Failure inspires me towards new and different directions
- Failure prompts me to explore and discover my unknown abilities
- Failure reminds me never to settle, but to always keep moving, reaching, changing, and recreating.
- When friends and family have deserted me, and success has eluded me, failure is always there, sitting right there beside me at the bottom of the pit, where I have fallen. And like a true and trusty friend, it reminds me, gently, to get up off my ass, brush my knees off, and get right back to climbing and reaching for the stars.